Anger and fear are two important emotions that many people get unduly stressed about. Anger is a normal healthy emotion and the problem is only when you are unable to keep it under control. Fear is another thing that people get stressed about in life. Unnecessary fear and anger lead to a disturbed and uneasy life. In today’s article, we will show you How To Overcome Anger.
How To Overcome Anger
Below we will show you Ways to Overcome Anger and Resentment
Try and find out the anger trigger points
Everyone, at one point or another, will have to deal with anger. It is important to understand the trigger points and analyze the anger signs. Sometimes when people are angry their heart beats faster, they sweat, clench their fists or tighten their body and shoulders etc. Find out what are your anger signs. Once you find out the trigger points, then you will be able to handle and manage your anger.
Start the process of cooling down
Once you understand the anger signs and the trigger points, then it is time to start focussing on addressing the same. There are many ways in which you can overcome or cope with anger. Some of them are listed below –
Count till 20
First and foremost start slowly counting till 20. You can count more if you are still angry. Counting till 20 gives you time to cool down and think clearly, rather than just lashing out on impulse.
Move away from the situation and do not react
Once you hold back your anger and move away from the situation without reacting, you will calm down and feel better.
Take a deep breath
Taking a deep breath always helps in any situation. It helps to relax as you breathe in oxygen. Whenever you are angry, you automatically breathe in more and this helps to relax, both physically and mentally.
Play some soothing music
Today we have ipads, smartphones etc., which can be used to play soothing music. Good, soothing music helps to calm down a person. You can also be creative by dancing or doing something that will help divert attention from any angry thought.
Exercise regularly and keep the stress levels down
Regular exercise like jogging, brisk walking, swimming, a quick badminton or tennis game, can help reduce the stress. Daily exercise is one of the best ways of getting rid of anger, frustrations etc.
Exercise also helps to get good sleep, which is important to keep the body healthy.
Sharing or talking about issues with someone who can understand you
One of the long-term ways of overcoming anger or dealing with anger is to share and discuss your feelings with a friend or a family member. Firstly, it removes the initial outburst and bitterness. Further, you are able to think calmly and get a different perspective of the whole situation.
Control your mouth
The Bible says that while the tongue is one of the smallest parts of the body, it is the most difficult to control. We speak blessings and curses from the same mouth. When we are angry, our mouth gets out of control. We use words like
- You always do this to me
- You never listen to us
- It’s not fair etc.
Many times words which are said in anger, hurt and break relationships. It is very difficult to mend or restore back these relationships. A wise decision would be to avoid getting into arguments and losing your temper. This will save a lot of problems in the future.
Fear is one more emotion which has caused a lot of health problems. Many people unnecessarily fear future events, which may not even happen. Worry and anxiety lead to fear. It is normal to have fear, but it becomes a problem only when it is overwhelming.
Sometimes fear becomes so big that it can paralyze your life. Faith in God is exactly the opposite of fear. Faith gives you inner peace while fear gives you stress and anxiety.
Ways to conquer fear
Understand your fear symptoms
Many people associate fear with certain situations in their life. For e.g., fear of animals like snakes, fear of public speaking, fear of heights or adventure sports, planes etc. These situations then give rise to symptoms like sweating, feeling dizzy, racing heartbeat, loose motions, panic, and anxiety etc.
Try addressing these fears
It is important to address and face these fears. For e.g., if you are fearful of heights, then try to overcome the same by watching close family members do paragliding or some other adventure sport. Try to climb a small hill or a mountain with a group. Enjoy the pleasure of sitting on a mountaintop. As you focus on facing your fears and handling them, soon you will find that you are no longer fearful of those things. Do not push yourself, but take one step at a time. Do not be judgemental but give yourself enough time to overcome fear.
Question the fear thought
It is important to question the fear though. The more you analyze it, the better you will understand that it is time to overcome your fear. For e.g., some people are fearful of taking plane journeys. Encourage yourself by making plans to visit a good travel destination and then plan your plane journey. Many people have overcome their fears by facing them head-on.
Encourage yourself to overcome fear by understanding the rewards.
Once you understand fear, then you need to take steps to face it. Encourage yourself by watching the outcome of your actions. For e.g.,
- If you are fearful of heights, try trekking and climbing a mountain with other groups and enjoy the scenic view from the top.
- If you are fearful of plane journeys, take a nice vacation to somewhere you would love to go.
- If you are fearful of animals, trying being neutral when you see them.
Think rationally of the outcome
Many people overthink a situation and get more fearful. Most of the time, they think that they will die as a result of these situations. But in reality, it is not the case. Identify these fearful thoughts and rationally question them. Understand the difference between the actual risk and the perceived risk.
Live life positively
Encourage positive, peaceful and grateful thoughts in your life. Look around and enjoy nature and God’s creation. Be kind and generous to all those around you. Gratitude and kindness go a long way in keeping your body healthy.
It has been observed that people who suffered fear and depression were completely fine when they started volunteering for good charitable causes, like spending time with old people, cooking for orphans etc. They were so busy with these activities that they did not have time to overthink and be fearful.
These are some of the important ways of overcoming fear and anger in your life. It is important for you to take one day at a time and address your weaknesses. If you are focussed in addressing your fear and anger, then you will see the results eventually.
Hope you enjoyed this article How To Overcome Anger.
Please read our earlier article How to Develop Patience and Self Control.
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